On Monday morning I fought with myself to get up and go running. The alarm went off, I woke up, started talking to God and decided I would run later on that night, but my spirit wouldn't settle, it kept prompting me to get up and go. Now I set my alarm for 5:30am and it was now 7:00am, almost time to wake up and get Jay ready for school but my spirit kept saying - RUN - NOW! So I was obedient, I got up and I went running. Surprisingly I didn't mind the morning chill and the sun was just coming up so it was beautiful.
On my way back I kept thinking about my leg and how I am going to get it together, when God dropped something in my spirit. How can I expect to be healed without doing something! For those of you who don't know my story, I was involved in a really bad car accident. I broke my neck and bruised my spinal cord which left my left side paralyzed. I couldn't walk, I couldn't write, I had to learn how to do all of these things over again and yes it was quite an experience. I knew that God wouldn't leave me that way and he was faithful, I may still walk with a limp but praise God I am walking! There were people at Kessler who would never walk again, people who couldn't move not one finger, I was blessed and I will always be grateful!
Years ago, one of the women I look up to, her name is Minister Piles, told me that God wants to heal me and that I must rub my leg and pray over it every day, needless to say I did it for like one or two days tops and then I stopped. The very next year when she saw me she said, you didn't do what I said. Apparently God wants me to go through the process of healing because there is a lesson there. Something in my obedience will help me reach the unreachable! It's just like Jericho, when God told them to walk around the wall seven times, imagine if they had been disobedient, they would have never gotten what God had in store.
God truly knows what's best for us and even though we may think that what he is asking us to do is ridiculous or lame, we need to understand that there is a reason for everthing. God wants to know that we will be obedient to his word. I am ready to reach the world, ready to be used - Ready for love!
This process may be painful, I may even realize there were some things suppressed in the recesses of my mind that I haven't dealt with - either way I am ready!
Listen to God's words, be obedient, even when it seems hopeless, he has it all in control. He loves us and he wants the best for us, we just have to choose to listen and obey. Will you choose with me today? Will you face your fears and walk around Jericho's walls and watch as God tears them down? Let's pledge to God that we love him and the we will be obedient no matter what! Read Joshua chapter 6 when you get a chance and see how God works. I know that there is someone who is going through and needs to hear from God, ask God to open your heart and your mind so that you will hear clearly.
Love you and thanks for reading! Until next time... be blessed!
Keisha Natalee Cole
What a day! I am so hyped up from it all I don't know how to contain myself! I'm feeling reborn, re-energized, re-everything! My day started like any other day, me in the bed until the last minute, I know, I know, I said I would start running in the morning and blah, blah, blah.... I didn't, I'm a lazy lima bean! Anywhoo, enough about my short comings, I woke up and did my laundry, then I was supposed to meet my bestie for some fun wedding stuff and then off to work but that didn't pan out so I went straight to work. Babysitter issues gets you all the time!
Work was work as usual, I enjoyed the people and my co-workers. After work I was slated to sing but I got off too late and missed my opportunity, talk about a bummer. I was so looking forward to singing, anyway, I got to the church just in time to hear my girl April Brown singing, scratch that, she was tearing up the church! I walked in an everybody was shoutin', including April! Yep, she was shoutin' and sanging! Sanging and shouting! Tore me up walking in, shoot! The anointing does make a differ-ance!
After she was done singing the preacher of the hour took the mic and boy did he preach! What was the message you ask? Great question! I don't remember, but I will tell you this, he preached that thang! LOL! Just kidding, he was talking about giving God the praise regardless of your circumstances, being able to shout through your storm, then he referred to singing in the rain and how the man was so in love that it didn't matter that it was raining, he just opened his umbrella and began singing and dancing, he was so in love that no matter what was going on around him he continued to sing and dance, nothing phased him. That is exactly how we should be, praising God through our circumstances, the good and the bad! He gave us a fabulous illustration that changed my life. I didn't realize it at the time but by the time I got home, guess what I was doing! Changing my clothes so I could go running! YES!!! I KNOW! Me! I went running ya'll! Put my sweatpants on, my hoodie, my headphones and off I went with Eddie James in my ear singing FREEDOM, NO MORE SHACKLES, NO MORE CHAINS, NO MORE BONDAGE I AM FREE...
It hit me, I am free! Free from laziness, free from procrastination, free from all that the enemy has done to try to keep me from living on purpose! No more, I'm done with that life, it's time to TURN UP! LOL!!!! I'm Turning Up for Jesus! Hey that's my next single lol! Get Turnt Up for Jesus! Who is with me? Who wants to get Turnt Up for Jesus!
My fingers are on fire, I just want to write all night, but I won't, I will keep it short. The point of this post is to encourage all of you who are struggling to live on purpose because life just weighs you down everyday to the point where you can't move, I charge you to just get up an run! Whatever it is that is holding you back, let it go, give it to God and run! Don't be afraid to go, God will not let you fall. He tells you more than once in the Bible... I am with you always! So no worries friends, take him at his word an live! I choose Life! I choose God! I choose me!
Freedom is a beautiful thing and I am so grateful that I have it! You can have it too, just trust in God and know that He is the way, the truth and the life. Ask him into your heart, into your life, thank him for sending his son to die on the cross for our freedom, his blood purchased this freedom just for us! Don't fall back into self-bonage because of your situation, just begin singing in the rain, begin dancing through your storm, begin giving God the glory and the praise and watch how you come out! You'll be shouting look at me now! Trust me, he will do it!
Ok, ok I said I won't keep writing so I am done! Until next time...
Love you and remember to be a blessing to someone else!
Keisha Natalee Cole
So I had this bright idea that I was going to fast for 40 days like Jesus did when he was in the wilderness being tempted by the devil. My goal was to get closer to God and to read the bible more. So I decided that I would do the Daniel Fast since I have never fasted that long before. The Daniel Fast is a fast where you only eat fruits and vegetables and only drink water.
I went out brought my fruit, my vegetables, water, read up on the different kinds of meals I could have and planned my days out. No TV, no FB, no twitter, nothing but me and the bible! What a great way to spend my free time, with God! I was ready. I went on and started my fast, prayed that morning, read the bible and went on my way. Each day went the same, I would start off with prayer and end with prayer, reading the bible or books that dealt with the bible. Great job right, yeah well, here's the truth of the matter - instead of waking up an hour earlier to really spend time with God, I would sleep until the alarm clock got tired of sending me wake up messages and then pray while still laying in my bed, sometimes falling back to sleep while praying, then jump out of bed, read a quick scripture or two and start my day. Sure I would read the bible every time I was not doing anything, but the whole point of me spending more time with God was drowned out by how tired I always was and how busy my days and nights were. I ended up getting sick to the point where I needed antibiotics and I began to lose weight (so not what I needed, I'm skinny enough as it is). Despite all the craziness I pressed on telling myself that I was doing the right thing.
What I didn't realize was that I had never really asked God should I go on the fast in the first place. I ended up stopping the fast 16 days in because I was very sick, but also because I wasn't really fasting properly. Fasting takes discipline and that is one area I have some challenges with. The next time I decide that I want to fast, I am going to pray and ask God if it is in his will for me to fast and for how long. We always say that God is the head of our lives but how many of us really mean that.
Do we really ask God about everything? Do we trust him enough to let him lead us? I mean the no back-up plans kind of trust! I don't know about you but I forget more often than I would like to admit! You know the saying "God ain't through with me yet!" Well he's NOT lol! I have a long way to go, but thank God for his grace and mercy because I will keep on trying!
Don't be discouraged if you feel like you are off the path, just find your way back and let God lead you, his love conquers all! Thank God for his love!
Tomorrow I will attempt to wake up early, jog a little, I know... me jogging, lol! Hush! It can happen! Then I'm going to spend some much needed time with Daddy! Yep I'm a Daddy's girl! Me and his word will be chilling on the bench at the little walking park down the street from my house. No bed = no temptation! I love you Daddy and I am determined to do your will!
Til next time!
"Beautiful rain, even though it hurts, washes away the pain."
One of the lines to a song I wrote. It simply means that although we go through hurt and pain, things that cut so deep it brings us to tears, that even though we hurt, the tears washes away the pain, to help us in our healing process.
It's never a good idea to hold things in, it's always best to allow yourself to experience the pain, the reaction to the pain, take the time to go through the steps, trust me, it is worth it. I used to be the kind of person who held everything in, I would never divulge how I felt until it was too late and then I would burst into this horrible fit of rage. Better not be in my way when I was coming through, it wasn't a very pretty sight.
I have a very bad temper hidden way down deep inside and if she gets out, oh boy! Yeah, I know, you're saying to yourself, no way, not Keisha Natalee Cole! I know, shocking! LOL! Truth is, it's not very shocking at all. I can get it in if I really wanted to.
Now, I practice talking about how I feel, and yes sometimes yelling it. What? I'm a work in progress! The point I'm making is, allow the rain to fall and wash away those immediate feelings that come with pain, hurt, rejection, or whatever it is that has torn you apart inside. Be angry, be hurt, be confused, depressed, they are all normal feelings that we must go through to begin the healing process. But I must warn you, don't allow those feelings to control you; you cannot do it alone. You need God to help you through it every step of the way.
When I was going through my separation, it was devastating. I didn't want to be a statistic; I didn't want to admit that I was a failure, that I couldn't keep my marriage together. I felt betrayed. I was hurt and angry. I wanted to make him feel exactly how he made me feel. I wish I could tell you that I turned the other cheek and regrouped the right way, but I can't. Now I didn't get all crazy and start slashing tires and breaking windows (I bust the windows out your car... lol) Nope, not the Jazmine Sullivan route. Too many law suits now-a-days. I wouldn't recommend that route, unless you don't mind being sued for damages. Nope, it's not worth it, but I did treat him like dirt because that's how he made me feel. Was I wrong? Yes, I was, but at the time it was what I needed to get through the day.
Once I finally got hold of myself and realized that this behavior was unbecoming of a lady, especially of a DIVA such as myself, I regrouped. I got on my knees and prayed, I prayed for what seemed like hours. This wasn't a pretty prayer either, there were tears and snot and all kinds of why's and help mes going on. I was a complete mess. The next morning, I felt better; I got it all out. I went to the right person, the comforter, God. I knew that he was the only one who could get me through it, the right way. He helped me get past the anger, the hurt, the disappointment, the everything. Now please don't think it happened overnight, although it did happen quicker than I expected, it was not instantaneous.
Once I was able to begin the healing process, I was able to forgive him for what he had done and forgive myself. I was able to begin moving on. Good old temper was put back in her place, hidden deep down inside of me. I stayed prayerful, not only for myself, but for my ex-husband as well. I prayed for our children and our relationship as single parents. I knew God would make it all better and he did. My ex-husband and I are great friends, he is a great father to our children and we are on the right path.
I wasn't even sure what I was going to write when I sat down and opened my blog, but I guess this is what I was supposed to write because that song immediately came to mind.
Beautiful rain even though it hurts, washes away the pain. I know sometimes it seems hard, you don't know what's going on. The walls are closing in, they're falling all around and the pain cuts so deep, you feel like you're drowning in the.. Beautiful rain even though it hurts washes away the pain. Those tears you've cried all night, God hears you calling. He sees your pain and so he sends his healing rain, even though it hurts, washes away the pain. Those words left unspoken, your heart he sees broken, he'll make you whole again...
Lyrics to a song written to encourage those who are hurting, to remind them that God is a healer of all things, he can and will make you whole again. So know that you don't always have to be strong, it's ok to have a moment, that doesn't make you weak, in fact it shows strength.
Be blessed and know that God is your comforter.
Keisha Natalee Cole
Love, what exactly is love? A feeling, an emotion, an action word, God, love is all of these things. What are the characteristics of love? 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
Is this how you love? I can't say that I totally love this way, but I am trying. Love is hard because we are so used to things being a certain way that often times we neglect certain parts of love, like the patience part, if someone does something that gets on your nerves, we are quick to dismiss them or say something rude. We get agitated and forget that we love them for that one moment. I know I am good at this, especially when my son starts whining and acting as if he is two years old! UGH! Look I am getting impatient just writing about it. It drives me crazy and makes me want to shake him! LOL! Don't judge me, you know you get like that too! Or when your significant other does something you feel is stupid and you take their heads off with your words, lol! Raise your hand if you know what I am talking about! LOL! I see you over there with both hands raised. I think patience is the hardest part of love, once you have patience all the other parts are easy.
Think about it, which characteristic comes first? Patience, look at that, you got it on the first try :0) Patience comes first, why? Well without patience you can't be kind. Is it possible to be kind and not patient? Let's look at the definition of kind: Having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature. Can we do that without patience? Lack of patience usually leads to an angry or aggravated spirit; I don't how many people can pull being kind off while being angry or agitated. Imagine someone handing you a dollar with an angry tone, lol! You probably wouldn't want to take it; I know I wouldn't! Never mind, keep your dollar would be my response!
Ok, moving on, now we know you can't be kind without patience, what about the next one, "it does not envy". Hmmm, how does patience relate to being envious? Well let's see, if we are patient we know that our time is soon to come and we would not be envious of others and what they have. Is it possible to not be envious without patience? I don't think so, if you lack patience, everything you see, you will be envious of. I want that now! Why don't I have a man/woman, why don't I drive a fancy car... but if you have patience you know that God will provide! "And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4.19 So you see, if you lack patience you will be envious - no bueno mi amigos! Didn't know I could speak Spanish did you! Ha! lol! Ok, only a little!
Alright, so we can't be kind and we will be envious without patience, what's next? "It does not boast", ok, so boasting means bragging, how does patience relate to bragging? Well, it takes a lot of self-control to remain humble; to understand that it's not about us, and without patience there is no self-control. So in order to keep from boasting we need the patience to refrain from making it all about us. There is of course one exception to this rule, but only when it comes to me, it's always about me! LOL! Just kidding, no seriously it is! Bwahahahahahahaaaaa!! Ok, ok, I just couldn't help myself! Hush bestie, say nothing! I digress, back to the topic of discussion, see how I just did that! Now if I had patience, I would have stopped myself from interjecting that statement. SMH, Lord please help me!
So let's look at this a little closer, imagine with me if you will (in my preaching voice lol) God, being the loving God that he is, lacks patience, heaven help us, I would not be writing this and you would not be reading this, we would not have even been born LOL! He would have wiped us all out and kept moving. Praise God that he is love, because if he wasn't... he wouldn't have sent his son, he would have thought about it and said you know what, nope, Jesus stay right where you are! I'm not giving myself for these people, the same people who neglect me and use me only for their own selfish gain, these people who don't love me, who turn their backs on me time and time again. Ok, now I'm off on a whole other topic, let's get back to the subject at hand. If God weren’t love, we wouldn't be.
Next, "it is not proud", I like how the list talks about what it isn't as well as what it is. There can be no confusion on what love is. It is not proud, how does patience relate to being proud? What does proud mean: Having, proceeding from, or showing a high opinion of one's own dignity, importance, or superiority. Well I guess you can say that this goes right along with boasting, since pride and boasting go hand in hand, self-control is needed in this case as well and a good dose of humility! Pride and love don't belong together - pride prevents you from being open, from being vulnerable from being willing... from being patient. If you're all puffed up you won't have any patience to deal with anyone else, you will have a sense of superiority, that you are better than others and that is definitely not love. Since we are grouping here, why don't we throw in "it is not self-seeking" into the mix. All of these relate to being puffed up.
Love does not "dishonor others". Sometimes we can be so impatient with people that we judge them or we speak ill of them because we don't understand them, or because we don't want to understand them. We are so quick to rely on our own resolve that we neglect to see the world through their eyes, we forget that it is not about me, we forget that we all sin and fall short. We often hear that power is in the tongue, well it is. We can't lack patience and then speak highly of others; again this spirit of negativity comes into play when we have no patience. We need patience in order to deal with others on all levels, to encourage and uplift we need the patience to listen to what's going on, the patience to think our reply through before we speak, the patience to stick around to talk about it or be there for someone, or even just sit with someone. Job's friends sat with him for hours on end without speaking can't do that without patience.
Love is not "easily angered", well isn't this an easy one, you definitely need patience to control your temper. Without the patience to deal with people or circumstances we would all be angry all the time. There has to be a level of patience involved in order to not get angry. Scripture tells us "Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry." James 1.19 We can't do this without patience. James goes on further to say in verse 20 "Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires." And we want to please God, right? So if we want to please God, we need to develop patience so that we are able to control our tempers and act in love instead of react with emotion.
Love "keeps no record of wrongs", love doesn't hold a grudge. Oh boy, now we are on my street, well the street I used to live on. I could hold a grudge for life, that is until I realized that forgiveness is key to pleasing God and living a life of low stress. We may not realize it but when we hold on to things, it drains us, it keeps us from God's will and it creates needless stress in our lives. Holding on is allowing that person or situation to control you, because every time you think about it, animosity begins to take hold and you become hurt or angry as if it just happened, but if you let it go and forgive, each time you think about it, you smile knowing that God has forgiven you as you have forgiven others and you understand that this situation or person no longer has a hold on you, your spirit is free from their hold. This part of love is difficult because we are so deeply connected to our feelings that is becomes hard to let go, it becomes hard to truly forgive because all we can think of is the wrong... start thinking about the right, think about what you learned from the situation or the person, think about what God can do in your life and theirs. We have to understand that without forgiveness we remain in bondage. There's a saying that says you don't forgive a person for them, you forgive them for you. I find fault in this statement because you forgive for yourself as well as for them. Forgiving them shows them that you are loving, it shows them how God operates, it shows a level of patience that allows you to be in their presence without wanting to lay hands on them, and I don't mean with the anointing oil! ;0) Scripture says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4.32; "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one and another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive." Colossians 3.12-13 There are so many other Scriptures that talk about forgiveness - we must pay attention. To truly love you cannot hold records of wrong, we must forgive and move on in love.
Love "does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth" We cannot love and then wish bad things on people, we can't rejoice when bad things happen to people, it's just not right. We already know that you reap what you so, but we should not delight in people's misfortune, even if they have wronged us. Revenge belongs to the Lord, not us. Delight: A feeling of extreme gratification aroused by something good or desired. Evil: Something that is a cause or source of suffering, injury, or destruction: the social evils of poverty and injustice. I know there have been many times when I said to myself that person deserves what they got, or have wished bad things on people because of what they did to me, but that was lack of patience on my part. And my lack of patience caused me to act unkind, it caused to me to hold a grudge, it caused me to anger... you get the point. Patience is still an ever-occurring theme in all of these characteristics of love. Love rejoices with "truth" - the truth of the Gospel, that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us so that we can be made clean by the shedding of his blood. The truth the "God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life." John 3.16. "But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what he has done has been done through God." John 3.21 Let us delight in these truths instead of evil, let's not be quick to judge or point the finger saying I told you so, let's not be too proud to think that we are better than others. Interestingly enough my Pastor in his sermon today made reference to the parable of the tax collector and the Pharisee:
"Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: 'God, I thank you that I am not like other people - robbers, evildoers, adulterers - or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.' "But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, 'God, have mercy on me, a sinner.' "I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted." Luke 18.10-14
Let's not be like the Pharisee, exalting ourselves, I'm telling you, that's the wrong way to go.
The last group of things that love is points to three things that brings joy "trusts, hopes and perseveres". These three things definitely relate to patience. You need patience to trust, because things don't always happen instantaneously and some times when situations look bleak, we have to have the patience to trust that God will provide. You definitely need patience to hope because if you are impatient you feel defeated; there is nothing else that can be done. Hope and trust go together, your faith provides hope and your trust strengthens your faith, either way without patience none of these exist. Love perseveres - well you definitely need patience to persevere, otherwise if things don't turn out as they should you will quit, but if you have patience you will try again, and again until you reach your goal. Love is a multitude of things, but without patience you will have difficulty truly loving others.
Perhaps in our daily prayers we should include the desire for patience so that we are able to love as God describes. Though we are not Jesus, we should strive to do as Jesus would have us to do and that is love. We know what the true definition of love is, the bible makes it clear, we just need patience and the Holy Spirit to act accordingly because love is the fruit of the spirit and without the Holy Spirit there is no love.
I pray that God will send his Holy Spirit to permeate our souls so much so that we have an outpouring of this love that Scriptures teaches, that we are able to walk, talk and act in love so that someone may see Jesus in us and want to know what they must do to experience this same love.
I could go on writing on this subject of love, but if I love myself, I must take care of myself and resting is an important part of taking care of myself. So I need to retire for the night and get some rest. I would however, love to hear your comments on this wonderful topic of love.
Talk you soon!
Keisha Natalee Cole
Let me preface this by saying, no I have not lost my mind, no I didn't fall off the wagon and yes I still believe in sex after marriage! LOL! But who wouldn't want to know about "Sex that brings you closer"! So this blog is dedicated to sex and the ways that it will bring you closer.
I'm in A&P shopping when I come across this magazine with the words "The Sex That Brings You Closer", so of course I chuckle to myself because we all know Sex sells! Especially to those people who are insecure and need something to help them along the way so they cling to these articles in hopes that it will strengthen their love life. Truth be told, it probably can't and won't!
So I'm going to tell you about "The Sex That Brings You Closer to God", because who wouldn't want to be closer to God. The bible gives us clear instructions on sex outside of marriage, so let's start there since most people are fornicating anyway and indulging in sexual immorality because hey, YOLO right!
Let's start with Galatians 5.19-21 "Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." Notice that the first thing addressed is sexual immorality, then it goes on to impurity, sensuality, etc - it clearly states that those who indulges in the works of the flesh will not inherit the kingdom.
What is sexual immorality exactly, are there some things that can be excluded? I'm glad you asked! Let's break it down shall we! The dictionary describes it as "the evil ascribed to sexual acts that violate social conventions." Evil.. violating social conventions? I'm sure you're saying to yourself, well I don't do anything evil so I'm doing alright on that end, but what about how the bible defines sexual immorality? Surely this includes things such as adultery, for all of us who prefer to sleep with married men/women because there is no attachment and we get lots of material things. Or how about fornication, for those of us in a committed relationship, we love each other and we don't need a paper to tell us that we are married, what about those who say well I'm young and I'm enjoying life because it's short and we are not promised tomorrow. I don't know about you but I would rather enjoy life safely so that I could possibly prolong it as best as I could than live reckless and help death give me an early grave, but that's just my take on the subject. Ok, I digress, back to the topic.
So we were discussing what sexual immorality includes, well back in the bible days people were having all kinds of sick and twisted orgies, temple prostitutes, sex with animals, sex during women's menstruation, homosexuality, sex with close relatives, etc. People were having a free for all, well they still do when you think about it. Ephesians 5.3 says "But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints." God is telling us that we need to stay away from sexual immorality, we need to be pure. How can I be pure if I've already had sex, what sense does it make to stop now, I'm already in sin, I might as well continue. This way of thinking is wrong, wrong, wrong! If you are truly sorry for your wrong doing and you repent and ask God for forgiveness - he tells you to go and sin no more. So if you want to flee from sexual immorality, you can recommit your life to God and ask him to help you control your sexual desires, become what they are calling a born again virgin. Why not, we are born again Christians, so why can't we recommit what God has given us to Him and seek his kingdom so that we may be holy and acceptable unto him? We can! God said so! 2 Timothy 2.22 "So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart." How about Collosians 3.5 "Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry."
He wants you to be holy, set apart, righteous. If he didn't he wouldn't have sent his son to suffer and die on the cross for our sins! 1 Thessalonians 4.3-4 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor..." When Paul traveled to Rome he emphasized this, Romans 12.1-2 "I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." If we are going to be true lovers and followers of Christ we must not fall prey to the way of this world, aren't we in a time where now it's ok to be different. I mean I can remember the days where if you were different you were labeled an outcast, now everyone wants to be different. Well dare to be different out of love and admiration for what Christ has done for you.
1 Corinthians 6.11 gives us the idea of a fresh start "And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." And such as I - but Jesus died so that I can be forgiven and start again. So can you, if you truly want this in your heart of hearts.
Ok so now that I have directed you to a few scriptures that tell us clearly how God feels about sex outside of marriage, I'm going to address you, over there in the corner, who says well where in the bible does it say you have to be married? Genesis 2.24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." In the beginning God introduces us to the idea of marriage with Adam and Eve - he laid with her and they became one flesh, their spirits intertwined and they knew each other.
1 Corinthians 7.1-40 "Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ... " Another clear explanation about where God wants us to be in terms of relationships with one another. God clearly wants and knows what's best for us which is why he created sex within marriage, so that we can of course procreate but also to enjoy one another! He also said don't deprive each other - so for all the women out there reading this who use your goodies as a weapon - CUT IT OUT! LOL! God said so! You don't want Satan coming in and tempting your husband with some other Jezabel do you?! LOL! Seriously though, I could go on and on about why and how, who, what and where but since this is a blog and not a book, I will wrap it up right about here. What does all of this have to do with bringing you closer to God, so glad you are paying attention.
Here is the breakdown, it's really simple; for those of us who are virgins and are saving themselves for marriage - great job! Keep up the good work, for those of us who are born again - hang in there you can do it!
First: The only way we can get through this period in our lives is through prayer and trust in God - prayer because the flesh is weak and trust because you have to trust that God will bring you that mate who will wait with you and love you like you are supposed to be loved. I know from experience that being celibate is not easy, not by a long shot - it's easy when you don't have a steady in your life because you don't have the temptation in your face. Imagine with me if you will - you are in a relationship with this wonderful person and to top it off they are fine as all get out - whatever that means, lol, I mean they are hot and sexy - when they touch you , you just want to melt and don't find yourselves alone in a romantic setting - forget about it, anything's fair game - how do you resist the temptation of just going for it? PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, kick them out and pray some more! LOL! Ask God to help you keep your mind stayed on him, because if I keep it stayed on my boyfriend/girlfriend my prayer will be a prayer of repentant instead of strength. I'm just saying... nod your head if you agree!
Prayer brings you closer to God, the more you talk with him the closer you get and since the flesh is weak I would imagine your prayer life increasing daily!
Two: Read the bible and stay away from entertainment that might arouse the flesh. If you are reading the Bible you most likely won't be thinking about sex, you'll be learning about God and how else do you get close to someone, by learning more about them. Well, you will find God all throughout the Bible - this I guarantee! Staying away from tv and books that have all the lovely sex scenes gives you more time to spend with God. He'll love that, I'm a witness, the more time I spend with God, the more clarity I have and the more blessings I receive.
So you see, it's simple! The Sex That Brings You Closer is no sex at all until marriage - it will definitely bring you closer to the one who matters the most, God! Matthew 6.33 "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." Everything!!
Well, I hope you enjoyed my book/blog, I pray that it helps and encourages you to join me on this journey to living a life that is pleasing to God. It's not easy, this I know for sure, but it is so worth it in the end! Feel free to share your thoughts, let me know you were here!
Living a righteous life is hard enough but living a righteous life while being bombarded by negative people is near impossible.
Who's in your ear? Are you surrounded by people who love you, uplift you and encourage you? Or are you surrounded by people who tear you down, burst your bubble and are jealous of you?
"Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned?" Proverbs 6.27
You are the company you keep. If you are consistantly with the wrong group of people you will be affected by them and eventually begin to act like them.
"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. " Proverbs 13.20
Which would you rather be? Wise or foolish? I know I would rather be among the wise, foolish just doesn't look good on me!
"Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” I Corinthians 15.33